Following your intuition always pays off — My therapist came highly recommended. But I was sceptical at first. My truth was being lived. My mindset was good. My life so far had been as I wanted. I had no need for a therapist. However, I felt stuck with a few business deals. My usual elaborate chess-like set…

Seeing the wood from the jello — If you’ve managed to reach 50 years of age, well done and many congratulations. A good friend once told me a fantastic analogy of what it’s like to be 50. “TJ, when you hit 50 someone passes you a pair of mink gloves. You see, life is like being on…

It’s not hard to stay hard — I was shocked to read that 10% of men over 40 per decade have a problem both getting an erection and sustaining it. That’s 50% of men over 50. I paused for a moment to reflect on my sexual journey and rack my brains to see if there was ever…

A private party for two was gatecrashed — What had started as a couple of drinks with Melanie and her husband, Joe had quickly escalated into something no-one could have predicted. Joe was ordered upstairs to listen just over an hour ago. It was Melanie’s fantasy to be tied up and sexually used by another man. The couples’ leap into a new sexual lifestyle pushed them both well out of their comfort zone.

A dinner party with a twist — She wasn’t subtle. I imagined what it would feel like for any of my girlfriends to make such an obvious play for a stranger as soon as they walked into a party. But the truth of the matter was, none of my girlfriends would need to do this. Her white…

Everything counts in small amounts — The erectile dysfunction (ED) industry is worth $3.5 billion in the US alone. Wow. That’s a lot of men who need help. The subject of ED is complex. But, it’s safe to say that diet and lifestyle has a lot to do with it. As a man you have to…

Some situations are unavoidable — It was like any other Monday morning — two double espressos sat simmering next to my laptop. My headphones were on. Erik Satie was, as ever, the backdrop to my furious start to the week. Exposed brick-work, low level wicker lights and firmly upholstered chairs all played host to the…

Every detail matters when you hit 50 — When did you tell yourself it’s OK to use Viagra? When did your penis become a redundant part of your anatomy? The complexity of your life’s journey to this point is none of my business. And I can’t second guess your sexual experiences. I can, however, speak from my own…

The quality of life is 100% up to you — Ageing is a disease. A disease of the mind. Not Alzheimer’s disease or any degenerative cognitive disorder, but a disease of voluntary mental attitude. The truth is, thinking you’re old is going to kill you faster than actually getting old. Whilst I appreciate no-one gets out alive, I firmly believe…